You’re met a woman that catches your eye, and now you have to make your move. Too many guys have a wrong perception of how attraction works. Right from the start they act and behave like amateurs thinking they can get a woman’s attention by doing the wrong things. Try to follow some of the guide lines below to prevent getting put in the friend zone.
THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO:
1) Hovering- lots of guys do this at the club, they see an attractive girl and stand next to her hoping a conversation. Often times the girl catches them checking her out. This comes off as very creepy, and just demonstrates you are low value. If you are going to get near an attractive woman you must immediately approach start a conversation.
In social group situations, the guy likes a girl in their group of friends. He will make the mistake of calling her all the time, “hanging” out with her like a girlfriend, and listening to her problems. This is a sure way to end up in the friend zone. You must always keep in mind the time factor. Attraction can fade over time. You have to follow the Seduction Process if you want to be successful with women.
2) Bragging- Talking about how great of a job you have or the car you drive is probably THE MOST common mistake men make when talking to women. It’s an honest mistake. We think this will shows your value, however it DOES NOT.
Instead, let her interest unfold. Let Her DISCOVER things about you. Women find in interesting to “discover” things about you. It’s like a treasure hunt. Only give them just enough information. Sometimes is best pull back a little with joking, and tell her you are a garbage man or crossing gaurd. Make fun a little.
It’s only natural to talk about yourself, it’s comfortable and familiar. However you will BORE HER TO DEATH. You can flip the script. Get her to talk about herself. It’s more comfortable for her.
3) Asking for the phone number too soon: Some guys are a little too eager about having an attractive woman. You can’t just walk up to a woman who doesn’t know you, and ask for a phone number. You might get a number, but you will never get the date. Timing is crucial and you have to get a feeling, know if she is interested, and you have built up enough attraction. A little conversation joking, and push-pull is necessary to gain her trust.
4) Getting physical too soon- This is a big deal killer for women. At times, men will try to go in for the kill right from the start. Good attitude, but terrible technique. Guys will sometimes touch a woman when she is not comfortable with you yet. Putting your arm around them, hugging or kissing a woman requires that be in the proper sequence of seduction.
5) Ass kissing- Men think agreeing with her points of view or excessively complimenting a woman, will get the woman attracted to you. This only leads to you looking fake with an agenda. When in conversation, a little confrontation is ok. Keep things interesting and disagree once in awhile. Always wanting a woman’s approval is very UN-attractive.
6) Job Interview Conversation- You see it all the time. Men ask:
Where are you from?
What is your job?
If it fun?
What are your hobbies?
STAY AWAY FROM HAVING THIS TYPE OF CONVERSATION!!!
At bars and clubs, women are so sick of it. You will fail is you approach women in this manner. Humor is key. Be funny, Tell jokes, and have charisma.
Use openers to start a conversation and break the ice.
Use routines to spice up the conversation and keep things interesting.
