DO NOT taker her to Dinner and a Movie- This is probably the most widely made mistake when first taking a girl out. Dinner is so AVERAGE!!! Going to the movies is ANTI-SOCIAL!! After speaking with so many woman, it is confirmed that eating has got to be the most unsexy thing a woman can do infront of a man. Especially for first dates. Keep in mind expensive dinners are for women you are already having sex with. Why are you going to spend all this money on a woman that’s not sure if she likes you yet? Stay away from women, that demand to be lavished at your expense.
This may seem harsh and one sided, but think about it……..You’re trying to get to know each other. Not how much money you have or much you can spoil a woman. YOU DON”T HAVE TO SPEND MONEY TO GET LAID. Some guys are so desperate, they’ll do anything for a woman. Remember, that a woman has a keen sense of your being, and can smell desperation a mile away.
Try doing things that are free - There are many free concerts, outdoor events, consider daytime things you can do. Explore her interests. If she’s a snowboarder,
Don’t ask her on a date, tell her to hang out with you- This tip alone will get you more “dates” if you pay close attention. As Mystery says, “Her comfort level is everything”. You want to always make sure a woman is comfortable. First dates are uncomfortalble for everyone!!!
When you ask her out on “date”, this label says you have romantic intentions. If she is not on the same “level” as you……..rejection is inevitable. STAY AWAY FROM THE WORD “DATE”.
If it’s a co-worker, tell her you’re gonna check out a new sushi restaurant and invite her to hang out.
Talk about how you’re attending a free concert this weekend with friends and come hang out with you.
You get the idea. Make it easy and simple. Always make it seem like you are going with, or without her regardless of her descision to hang out with you. This gives the girl some breathing room, and takes the pressure off her. By using this tactic, it’s less pressure for everyone. You don’t look like a guy picking up on a girl in front of everyone. Most importantly, she won’t look like a bitch by saying no, as this would seem like a casual invite.
Trick: Sometimes women are still uncomfortable. If she rejects you, I like to suggest that another friend will also be coming along. Often times, women will change their mind and go with you and another friend. While having a third wheel can be a hinderance, you still get a chance to game the girl and build comfort. Later, you may invite her for another hang-out session with just the two of you. Remember, it’s important to build a woman’s comfort level with you.
Never let her decide where to go for the first date- A woman likes a man that is in control. Despite the women’s liberal movement, Women do want to let go once in awhile an not have to worry about plans. Most career women today are tired, and need a little break. So make plans.
Bonding experiences are important- When making plans, the key is to have a bonding experience with her. Try to experience somethin NEW with her. A new museum, new music, or a new activity both you and her have never done. For example, both of you never surfed before, try it out. The key is having NEW experiences that both of you can enjoy together.
Don’t talk about complicated issues: Past Relationships hers and yours. Negative subjects. Complicaed subjects like politics & science. Alot of guys do this to portray their smarts or personility. While it may seem logical, you don’t want to bore her. Too many brainiacs get into too much detail about their careers. You want to impress, as well as NOT bore the woman to death.
Example: If you’re an aerospace engineer, don’t talk about the latest in missile guidance technology, and how it uses nano-technology to diffrientiate enemy from friendly targets…….zzzzz. Instead say, “Yah I build missiles, and blow things up. It was my passion since I was a little boy”. Remember light, humerous and uncomplicated.
Focus on Her: Ask her about her passions and aspirations. Many times if you just ask the right question about a subject they are interested in, they will talk non-stop. This is less work for you. All you have to do is sit back, nod your head, and crinkle your brow with a smile. —-She’ll think you’re the greatest listener.
Becareful with this one. A woman can get carried away telling her life story, eventually you may have to cut off the conversation and start a new subject. Remember that you must guide the interaction to a
Tease and joke with her- About what you ask? The information she has already given you. This is where being a good listener comes in. If she says, she’s a teacher, ask her if she is a mean teacher or cool teacher that all the kids talk about. If she works as a waitress, tell her you know her game to get money from guys. Whatever information she gives you, twitst it with humor and teasing. —–Don’t talk about sex too soon.
Always keep an eye on your game plan- There is a false preception of just going with the flow of things. Always be in control with the situation, you don’t want to be too forceful with your plans. At the same time you want to remain flexible and adapt to the situation. Too many guys have no direction and seem to let things go as they may. This is a sure road to nowhere. Women give signals and hints that you may move forward. You just have to pay attention. Remember that your goal in the end is to have a meaningful sexual relationship with a woman. Never lose sight of your goal.
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