DO NOT taker her to Dinner and a Movie- This is probably the most widely made mistake when first taking a girl out. Dinner is so AVERAGE!!!  Going to the movies is ANTI-SOCIAL!! After speaking with so many woman, it is confirmed that eating has got to be the most unsexy thing a woman can do infront of a man. Especially for first dates. Keep in mind expensive dinners are for women you are already having sex with. Why are you going to spend all this money on a woman that’s not sure if she likes you yet?   Stay away from women, that demand to be lavished at your expense.

This may seem harsh and one sided, but think about it……..You’re trying to get to know each other. Not how much money you have or much you can spoil a woman. YOU DON”T HAVE TO SPEND MONEY TO GET LAID. Some guys are so desperate, they’ll do anything for a woman. Remember, that a woman has a keen sense of your being, and can smell desperation a mile away.

Try doing things that are free -  There are many free concerts, outdoor events, consider daytime things you can do. Explore her interests. If she’s a snowboarder,

Don’t ask her on a date, tell her to hang out with you- This tip alone will get you more “dates” if you pay close attention. As Mystery says, “Her comfort level is everything”. You want to always make sure a woman is comfortable. First dates are uncomfortalble for everyone!!!

When you ask her out on “date”, this label says you have romantic intentions. If she is not on the same “level” as you……..rejection is inevitable. STAY AWAY FROM THE WORD “DATE”.

    If it’s a co-worker, tell her you’re gonna check out a new sushi restaurant and invite her to hang out.
    Talk about how you’re attending a free concert this weekend with friends and come hang out with you.

You get the idea. Make it easy and simple. Always make it seem like you are going with, or without her regardless of her descision to hang out with you. This gives the girl some breathing room, and takes the pressure off her. By using this tactic, it’s less pressure for everyone. You don’t look like a guy picking up on a girl in front of everyone. Most importantly, she won’t look like a bitch by saying no, as this would seem like a casual invite.

Trick: Sometimes women are still uncomfortable. If she rejects you, I like to suggest that another friend will also be coming along. Often times, women will change their mind and go with you and another friend. While having a third wheel can be a hinderance, you still get a chance to game the girl and build comfort. Later, you may invite her for another hang-out session with just the two of you. Remember, it’s important to build a woman’s comfort level with you.

Never let her decide where to go for the first date- A woman likes a man that is in control. Despite the women’s liberal movement, Women do want to let go once in awhile an not have to worry about plans. Most career women today are tired, and need a little break. So make plans.

Bonding experiences are important- When making plans, the key is to have a bonding experience with her. Try to experience somethin NEW with her. A new museum, new music, or a new activity both you and her have never done. For example, both of you never surfed before, try it out. The key is having NEW experiences that both of you can enjoy together.

Don’t talk about complicated issues: Past Relationships hers and yours. Negative subjects. Complicaed subjects like politics & science. Alot of guys do this to portray their smarts or personility. While it may seem logical, you don’t want to bore her. Too many brainiacs get into too much detail about their careers. You want to impress, as well as NOT bore the woman to death.

Example: If you’re an aerospace engineer, don’t talk about the latest in missile guidance technology, and how it uses nano-technology to diffrientiate enemy from friendly targets…….zzzzz. Instead say, “Yah I build missiles, and blow things up. It was my passion since I was a little boy”. Remember light, humerous and uncomplicated.

Focus on Her: Ask her about her passions and aspirations. Many times if you just ask the right question about a subject they are interested in, they will talk non-stop. This is less work for you. All you have to do is sit back, nod your head, and crinkle your brow with a smile. —-She’ll think you’re the greatest listener.

Becareful with this one. A woman can get carried away telling her life story, eventually you may have to cut off the conversation and start a new subject. Remember that you must guide the interaction to a

Tease and joke with her-   About what you ask? The information she has already given you. This is where being a good listener comes in. If she says, she’s a teacher, ask her if she is a mean teacher or cool teacher that all the kids talk about. If she works as a waitress, tell her you know her game to get money from guys. Whatever information she gives you, twitst it with humor and teasing. —–Don’t talk about sex too soon.

Always keep an eye on your game plan- There is a false preception of just going with the flow of things.  Always be in control with the situation, you don’t want to be too forceful with your plans. At the same time you want to remain flexible and adapt to the situation. Too many guys have no direction and seem to let things go as they may. This is a sure road to nowhere. Women give signals and hints that you may move forward. You just have to pay attention. Remember that your goal in the end is to have a meaningful sexual relationship with a woman. Never lose sight of your goal.

Growing up as a child we learn certain things, and rules from our mother about women. One of these “things” is that women like to be complimneted. Mom tells us to be polite, smile and tell the girl that she is pretty. Simple enough right? While this may be true, it does not cause a women to be attrated to you. This may confuse you so pay close attention.

The point here is to get women to like, want, and desire you.

Yes women, like compliments, and most of the time women seek compliments. We all seek compliments, and enjoy it. BUT……..  It does NOT increase HER ATTRACTION FOR YOU.
If fact, often times when you compliment a woman, she immediately starts to lose attraction for you.

I’ve seen it, and you’ve seen it. The evidence is there, yet men think this is the way to get a woman interested in you.  A guy will walk up to a beautiful woman and say, “Hey, you are the most beautiful woman, I’ve ever met.” and the girls face cringes in embarrasment, and she slowly turns away to give him the infamous could shoulder. THIS NEVER WORKS!!!

Why?

She got what she wanted from you- validation. What you have done is put her on a pedestal, and from a social perspective, your status is below hers. This is complex because, women are attracted to men who are leaders, not followers. When you compliment a woman, you are self depriciating yourself in her eyes. Women want a man to look UP to you….. not down.

Another thing about compliments: Beautiful women get compliments all the time!!!  You are acting and behaving just like EVERY OTHER GUY.  You don’t want to be the “average guy”. Women are looking for a man who is “different” and unique from her past experiences.

When interacting with a woman, it’s ok to give a small compliment, but don’t make it the center of conversation. This only makes her uncomfortalble. Instead, start to joke and tease, talk about other people, make curious observations about the world. But most of all, it’s important to be aware of a woman’s reactions, to guide you. Body languange in a big indicator is a woman just want you to go away, or stay and talk with her. 90% of rejections can be avoided just by observing vibe, and knowing when to eject from the situation.

What  Increases Her Attraction for you?

Focus on the folloing concepts and women will like, want, and desire you

We desire that which we cannot a have- We love all love the chase. A psychological quirk of human nature perhaps. To be really good with attracting women, you must understand that there is a delicate tension between a man and a woman that needs to be maintained. You want her to know you like her, but at the same time you want to pull away as if you’re not sure yet.  Mystery of Venusian arts applies this concept nicly. It’s a concept called push pull that maintains and builds sexual chemistry between a man and woman. Take a moment to understand this, and you will be a master in attracting women.

Humor is the number one characteristic women like- According to many surveys done by the most popular dating websites, women love humor.  It eases the ackwardness of human conversation. It’s puts down women’s defenses, and provideds women for a more comfortalbe interaction.  David De Angelo came up a concept called “Cocky & Funny”. It’s a mix of arrognce and humor. The purpose is here is to use conversation to spark attraction, and desire within women. Comedy is just the tip of the iceberg. Some of the best tricks to attract women can be found by Clicking here for David’s free dating tips and tricks

Have an interesting personality- Personality can be conveyed through your coversations with a woman. It’s important to know that what you talk about, greatly affects how a woman percieves you. Some men just don’t know how to talk to women. Often times they say the work thing. Learn how to avoiding uncomfortable silences, never run out of material, and spark interesting conversation that will lead to sexual attraction by reading the Routines Manual vol 2 by Love Systems.

Emotional connections lead to sex- Triggereing emotions is the stepping stone to having a sexual relationship with a woman. You might be having interesting conversation, she might laugh at all your jokes, but at some point, you must turn the interaction sexual, or you will be stuck in the FRIEND ZONE. Ross Jeffries is a master at emotional seduction. He incorporates psychological tactics like NLP ( neuro-linguistic programing) to trigger emotions that lead to sex. If you’re an advanced student and already understand that Seduction is a Process, then you need to Check out Speed Seduction 3.0 by Ross Jeffries.

It all started with the book “The Game” by Neil Straus and Vh1 Pickup Artist reality tv show. Since then there hasn’t been a good video on how to pick up girls.  As the years have passed I’ve been waiting for something new and informative. Simple Pickup has captured my attention with their in field videos. The humor, jokes and antics are non stop.  You can see Simple Pickup’s YouTube channel here.

For some time now, the buzz died down in the realm of pickup. It was good, and the women forgot we even existed.  Simple Pickup’s videos have put the pickup community in the spotlight once again. I can’t help laughing because our cover is blown wide open once again. Thanks guys.  On a side note it’s good for the industry and men in general. It’s forcing the community to evolve. These guys have taken it to a new level, and give pickup a new twist.   When VH1 Pick up Artist aired, every guy was using the same PUA Openers.  It was quite funny seeing guys at the bars & clubs getting blown out because of this. Lesson learned: Develop your own material.

The variation of the Mystery’s Opinion opener “Who Lies more, Men or Vaginas”  is a great one.  Watch here.  These guys are taking the humor over the top, and borderline practical jokesters. Two thumbs up.

Check out the Salon Article stating that these guys might be “the greatest pickup artists of all time”. I would say that’s a big maybe. I will say that they have momentum now, and as long as they enjoy entertaining women and helping men, they will succeed. I will be looking forwart to their new videos and material which should be coming out soon. Without being too critical, I really like these guys.

Below is the ABC Nightline interview with Simple Pickup. Lots of clips of cold approaches, routines, and ofcourse……rejection. These guys handle it very well as they keep all interaction light, humorous, and entertaining.

Love Systems, a dating and coaching company teaches men how to attract women. They teach seduction theory and provide private coaching for men who want to master the art of seduction.

Dr. Phil interviews the women who experienced some of the tactics used by the underground pickup community. The women actually think it is beneficial for men to learn these methods in order to have an effective connection with other women.

Surprisingly, Dr. Phil takes the side of pickup artists.

In this third video, so much is going on. Using openers and routines to convey an attractive and exciting persona help to build attraction. You can see how seduction is a step by step process.  By understaning that process you can attract the most beautiful women. Being constantly aware of the conversational dynamic is crucial. So much can be learned just by watching these videos.

As the time passes technology expands, and we are caught in the middle. We spend more time on our computers and online. We chat, text, email, message, facebook etc. They say that the best place to meet women is at bars & clubs because of the abundance of females at one location. If that is the case, the internet is a place where the numbers are in the millions. It makes sense to date online to increase your chances of meeting a beautiful woman.

There are some beautiful people online- You HEAR about marriages taking place through online dating. These days…..you are actually starting to SEE it. Speaking from personal experience, I’ve had friends who’ve found love online. After speaking to these women, I would say they are very attractive and impressive people. Dating sites like eharmony.com and match.com are quite sophisticated in making a connection for you. A lengthy questionnaire is submitted and analyzed with a mathematical algorithm to ensure compatibility. From what I can see, it’s working very well for the clients.

Pick-up women on the Go-Women on your iphone or smart phone? The recent boom in phone technology has made access to dating more convenient.  So, for those of you who are “too busy”, you have no excuse. While you’re slaving away at that corporate job, take a peek at some of the women online. You won’t be disappointed. So while you’re doing a little shopping online for some cool gear…….. pick-up a girlfriend while you’re at it.

Some of the guys in “the community” take an encompassing approach to meeting attractive women though a mentality of– ALWAYS BE CLOSING. Where ever they were, they will always try to meet new women. It doesn’t matter. Places like the laundry room, grocery store, a walk in the park was a place to meet women. Dating online is just part of the equation, and many men have embraced the technology.

There is no Social Presure- This is probably the number one reason men don’t meet many women. —-Social Pressure. Getting rejected with an audience looking, can be a major fear guys have. Approaching a stranger and trying to get her phone number, can be stressful. Chatting with a woman and getting her to go on a date with you can feel ackward. Online dating is great for people who are shy, and just getting started in the dating scene. You can try sending a message to that perfect 10. You have more privacy through an online interaction.

Practice makes perfect- If you are going to get good with women. It will require action on your part. Socializing and integrating into a woman’s life is a journey that few men understand. The best way is application of the methods and theories provided on this website. All the tools you need to understand are here. All theories are mostly valid but must be adapted to to the online environment. There are some online dating sites that are free. It’s best to experiment with no strings attached and see what works for you. Pictures that demonstrate characteristics of an alpha male. Take some time to tweak your online profile for better results. Experiment with different types of messages to portray a fun and outgoing personality. The possibilities are endless.

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 A break up is a terrible experience for a person to go through. The hurt inside can be unbearable at times. Sleepless nights, and lack of appetite are just a few severe physical symptoms. Your mind also is affected. Your thoughts spin out of control. You can feel, angry, sad, helpless, all at the same time. All you want to do is get your ex girlfriend back.

Getting your Ex Girlfriend back can be Complicated- Many factors are at play here, and not all situations are the same. However, there is hope. By understanding the foundation of how a woman’s interest levels work, you can have a 2nd chance.

By the time a break up happens—–it’s too late- What most men don’t realize when they get dumped by another woman, her decision to break-up has been a process of months, sometimes years. Often times, when a woman leaves to be with another man, relations have been established months prior. In other words, you are trying to rebuild a castle that has already crumbled. You must pull back and regroup your strategy.

Somewhere along the timeline of the relationship, SHE STARTED LOSING INTEREST. It may be something you did or said. It could be anything. You might know the reason, and other times it’s unknown. Looking back and trying to figure it out will just drive you nuts. To get your ex girlfriend back, you must  BUILD UP HER INTEREST LEVELS in you.

Rebuilding her interest level in you- You have to understand the Seduction Process and not do things that will make you look bad. How to get a woman interested in you is very counter-intuitive. What you think works with women, usually doesn’t. The psychology of what women are attracted to are based from an emotional level of interest. Womens’ emotions play a large part in deciding if they have that “special” connection with you.

Don’t go begging for her back—If you’ve just recently broken up, you are most likely an emotional wreck and feel very needy.  The survival instinct kicks in and desperate measures might be attempted. Like buying her things, and taking her out to dinner. Once the woman has the upper hand you are no longer a challenge to her and this will be the nail in your coffin is you push this too far. Never ever beg.

You must cut off all interaction- At this point, anything you say or do will only work against you. Especially if it’s a fresh breakup. The temptation to call or text can be strong. DON’T DO IT. If she want’s to talk, she’ll call you. But you may want to think twice, about answering her first call to build interest.  You want her to keep thinking about you. Don’t be so available. Act as if you’re moving on. Drunk dialing, or texting is a sure way to ruin the chances to get your ex girlfriend back.

You must have a life that women want to be apart of -After being in a steady relation of a few years, you may realize you don’t have a life “outside” of the relationship. Things like personal advancement, in education, social life, goals, and hobbies. Expand your knowledge in something, Learn to how to make more friends and meet new people. Establish new social circles.  Set new goals for the future, and have fun in life–everyone should do something they are passionate about.

 Jealousy & Intrigue are powerful Emotion- It could work against you, or you can use it to your advantage. You want her to be jealous and intrigued, not you. Don’t be so quick to return calls, if you do keep it short and light, portray the image of being busy. BE POLITE. Don’t talk about feelings or getting back together. Be light hearted and funny. Have things going on in your life, but don’t reveal. Things she would want to be a part of. Travel and adventure seems to spark the interest of women.

If you see her with another man-Don’t loose your cool. It has to seem like you don’t care. Women are attracted to men who are clam and collected. They are attracted to leaders. Because social circle overlap. This will be  likely to happen. Be ready for it. It has to seem that you have moved on. Never appear hurt. NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU BLEED.  If introduced, always be courteous. This will probably be the hardest thing for you to do. When women see you unmoved this event, they are often impressed by a man’s stature and control. Not only will your ex notice, other women will notice as well. This only serves to your benefit as being portrayed as a high-status male.

FEAR OF LOSS IS A POWERFUL EMOTION.  If she fears that she will lose you forever, she may come back to you. If you want to get your ex-girlfriend back, you must start socializing with other women, even if you don’t want to. You want her to think that you will eventually find another woman. This is the foundation of authenticity in your strategy. YOU MUST MOVE ON. When we we realize that we may lose something forever, we think twice.  You must move on- But wait? You wanted to get your ex back, not leave her, right?

Here’s the hitch- The fear of loss isn’t real, unless IT”S REAL. Yep, I know it’s probably not what you want to hear, but it’s THE TRUTH. You really have to go out there, meet women, socialize, have a great life without her, so she’ll want to get back together with you. Because we humans are social creatures, word get around quick. People will hear about dates you’ve been on, places your’ve traveled, and all the fun you’re having. Eventually your ex will hear about it, hopefully she’ll want to be a part of it.

You can’t fake It- You might try to pretend you have a few other girls you may be dating. Put out a few rumors to make it “look like” your moving on. When her fear of loss is amplified, it SHE WILL TEST YOU. She will call and want to chat or even meet up with you to relieve her of the intrigue and jealousy she’s feeling. She will want to know if she’s making a mistake. She wants to know if it’s all just a lie or show that you’re putting on. Women have a keen sense for BS, and they will find out the truth. This is where your 2nd chance comes in. It’s gotta be real.

Meeting up Later After the Breakup- If you’ve played your cards right, she will want to meet up with you to verify that breaking up with you was a mistake. Women have an instinct to tell if a man is being authentic or not. Are you going to make the same mistakes, and let the relationship get boring? If you want to win her heart back, you need to know how the Seduction Process works.

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This is a great example of how to be an alpha male. It’s all about the vibe you give off. This humorous movie clip pretty much gets the point across. The hard thing is, how you portray yourself comes from the inside. Once you understand the concept of taking the lead and becoming a leader, all aspect of you life change. Especially with women.

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This is a video clip of Tyler from Real Social Dynamics (RSD). There are some words of wisdom to be heard here. Too many people want instant results, with no work involved. Dating and attracting women and eventually getting a girlfriend is going to require a little effort. It’s also really important you read Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

You can only go so far by reading……You have to take action. Studying Attraction Theory is only part of the equation. 90% is the doing. Go out there an approach! The only way to perfection is practice. With determination you can be good at this game.

RSD Focuses heavily on in person bootcamps.  Bootcamps will accelerate your skills in attracting women. You only get results if you really work at it.  You meet the dating coaches and get personal consulting  to improve  your  techniques and help you develop a style that suits you. The RSD coaches will fine tune your abilities  and actually go into bars and club with you for hands-on experience.>> World Wide Bootcamp Schedule

Free Seminars are provided by RSD for those who want to learn more about social dynamics.

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The Pickup Artist is a tale of transformation. For these eight lovable losers, “socially awkward” is the understatement of the year. And when it comes to this lonely hearts club, desperate times call for desperate measures. Enter Mystery, best-selling author and ultimate pick-up artist–a former nerd from the Great White North who has discovered the secret to wooing women. Under his expert tutelage, he’ll guide this group of hapless horndogs through the rough waters of romance and help them find the courage to overcome their biggest fear–talking to women.

In The Pickup Artist, eight misfits will live together, learn together and love together as they compete for the title of “Master Pick-Up Artist.” Over the course of eight episodes, the men will learn the ins and outs of the Mystery Method– “how to open a set,” “the number close” and “the kiss close” among others. Aided by his faithful wingmen, Matador and J Dog, Mystery will teach these average guys how to turn the women of their dreams into the women of their reality.

But this seduction school isn’t confined the classroom. After each lesson, Mystery’s awkward apprentices will put theory into practice, hitting bars, clubs and coffee houses in an attempt to make a love connection. Via hidden cameras, Mystery is always watching to see who’s got potential and who’s got to go.

In each episode, one contestant will be declared the winner of a challenge and granted immunity from elimination, while one sad sack will be sent packing. At the end of the eight weeks, one winner will be named “Master Pickup Artist” and awarded $50,000.

They may not all win the prize, but every pick-up protégé departs with the tools he’ll need to change his life forever.

Who will rise to the occasion? Who will crack under the pressure? And who will become…The Pickup Artist?

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